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Here is a quote for yall
Tom Platz: “I promised myself as a little boy, I said I could never leave the gym knowing I have 5% left. That 5% is magic. That's the magic place where very few people go. You can go there. I'm giving you permission to go there. We have people behind you. If you fall down and drop the weight on the floor, who cares? Who cares? But if you make it, I care. I want that. I want you to fail, and I want you to get up and do it again. The same thing in life is the same thing here. If you can do this, you can do anything. Anything. Right now, you're 5% away from being a champion. If you don't take that last 5%, it's a knock on somebody else's door again. There's only a certain window of opportunity for success. This is your opportunity of a lifetime. Take the 5%. Go the 5% distance. It's scary as all hell. It will drive you to the ground. You'll fail a few times. You'll fall on your face. Get up. Keep getting up. Keep getting up.” I know he is talking about the gym in this but man this is just so powerful to all of life but especially in this struggle every in here is facing right now. It’s not this mountain, it doesn’t have that much power and we need to stop giving it that much credit. It’s 5%. 5% away from being a champion, a victor over ourselves. Hope this helps 🙏
5 days
5 days clean but ngl I wanna beat my shi no kizzy 🥀
Temptation
I’ve nearly looked at porn multiple times and I’ve been trying to stop masterbation for 24 hours. I think it’s just my way of coping. I only realize how bad it is and I just need more prayer than ever. If you’re reading this please pray for me and all the other men here.
Appreciate you all
A big high five to everyone on their self -improvement journey! You can do this 💪🏻
Prayer for all
I downloaded this app about 2 days ago and wanted to say a prayer for all men and women that are struggling: In the name of Jesus, I pray this prayer. Jesus, These lustful temptations are just temptations to try to bring pleasure when only give you true, long ever lasting pleasure. I pray that you bring me to your word and prayer when I get these thoughts in my head. In the name of Jesus, I cast out these demons of lust and look onto you as my lord and savior. You are here for me and I know you are here for me. In Jesus name, I am free from temptation and look at only you. Amen
80 days and toughest yet
Hit 80 days today and didn’t even know it until I hopped on here to flee from temptation. Definitely the hardest day yet. Social media is a slippery slope and i let it slowly distract me over the past 2 weeks until I started slipping today but got myself in right headspace and hopped on here to message others and encourage and pray for them. I feel like that’s literally one of the best ways to fight it. Don’t give up guys. Every day is a battle for our lives. Fight hard and stay strong! Its worth it.
5 days
Temptations will always be there. It’s about learning to control your lust. I tell myself to redirect those lustful temptations towards my lover. It changes the subject and also excites me for real world interactions yet to come.
day 17
i just got back from holiday and i must say i do feel a little tempted. though, throughout this period i have a gained a little more confidence and social skills with new people. returning back home definitely makes it harder to stay focused but all i remind myself is that i NEED to stay focused and disciplined to reach the best version of myself. i’m tired of feeling trapped in a steel bubble preventing my true potential. may god bless you all ❤️
Back to do it for real
I used to see people post on here about relapsing after 30+ day streaks and getting completely sucked back into the addiction. I never thought that would happen to me. Even if I relapsed once, I would just jump right back in and keep fighting the urges. I was at 50 days clean, redownloaded instagram, and it’s all been down hill from there. It’s been 4 weeks completely out of control. I was scared to even open this app to see all the progress I lost. Today I was in a really bad space, relapsed twice, and laid in bed all day. It’s time to dive back in and kick this thing. I know my weaknesses now and I know what I need to avoid. Let’s do this thing.
44 Days in, new perspective
Longish story, incoming. (If you want the main idea, you can skip to the last paragraph😉) Currently, I am on a 44 day streak, 22 year old, first time downloading this app, and I plan to continue this lifestyle forever, no excuses. I give all the glory to God in everything I do and everything that I have. I go to Him when I feel my urges and He strengthens me so that I am always stronger than what I feel at any given moment. Porn and masturbation weren’t the root of all of my problems, but these vices were the gateway that stopped me from acknowledging and subsequently destroying all of the negative habits that had taken ahold of my life. These negative habits I had included: beating myself up mentally about any and everything that I could (which fostered self hatred, continuing the cycle), I was never spoke my true thoughts to people because I didn’t want to upset anyone with my opinions or facts, I couldn’t be vulnerable with anyone because I had so many repressed emotions, I got used to hiding them…until they showed up in my relationship in the form of emotional disconnection and my communication (or lack thereof). I never stood on my boundaries because I was so used to people pleasing. I also lost my motivation to become a software developer, even after graduating college for it. Just to give you guys some context of my story, i became an orphan while being in college on my own because my mom died and my dad was never in the picture. When i graduated, i felt lost and like a fraud in my field, and i went to stay with my brother and his wife for a year. In the last 3 months, my life has changed completely. My girlfriend broke up with me, my brother and his wife made me feel like an outsider and were just actively using me for my resources, I can count my family members on one hand, and i genuinely feel like I’ve been two different people all my life. I couldn’t even go to God because of the sheer amount of shame I felt toward myself. I knew I had to change my life right then, because I am not on this earth for no reason, and I’ll be damned if my worth or value will ever be tied to another human being. And so I quit porn and masturbation that day and have vowed to becoming the best possible version of myself. My priority right now is getting closer to God, and everything else will fall into place. I was so broken and hurt and I had a void so big that I felt like there was nothing anyone could do to fill it…but then I called to God. I didn’t know how to pray, read the Bible, anything for real, I just started talking to Him and confessing everything about my sins and asked for Him to wrap His arms of love around me. It wasn’t easy, I used to wake up randomly and just go walking at 3am because i couldn’t stay asleep thinking about my ex. Everyday was difficult, but I still told God everything and asked Him to lead and guide me and to help me realize my purpose. I’m naturally empathetic, so I can understand peoples emotions without them having to say anything to me. Even while I was hurting so bad, to the point where I felt like crying at work just by thinking about her, I found ways to reach out and help other people deal with their own hurt. Allowing other people to be vulnerable with me and seeing them smile as a direct result warmed my heart. I knew that part of my purpose is to help people. After understanding myself through my interpersonal relationships and the way I thought of myself and my future, everything is becoming clear. The main problem with us who struggle with porn and masturbation is that we aren’t 100% secure and grounded within ourselves. Once you come to terms with all your emotions, good and bad side, become 100% confident in yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even becoming successful in the future, everything changes. We do this because we think less of ourselves in some way, shape, or fashion. Respectfully, FUCK THAT. All of us are here on this earth for a reason and I can promise you that, we are all special, so don’t think low of yourself. It’s easier said than done, but when you actively keep God in your life and give your worries to Him and focus on yourself and your career as if you’re working directly for Him, everything changes. I will become rich and successful, not because I care about money or a good lifestyle (although that does sound nice), but because of Him, I know why I’m on this earth. I will do everything in my power or use any resources at my disposal, that have been given to me by Him, to spread His influence and his love. I want people to smile, get fit, feel safe, think better of themselves in His name. And don’t think you can’t dig yourself out of the same hole that I did, because in the grand scheme of things, I’m a grain of sand in a world full of beaches. If you made it this far, I hope my story has touched you in a way that helps. There is way more to this story, but I’ll leave it there
Why it’s worth the struggle…
Jesus said: “If anyone wants to come after me, let him disown himself . . . day after day and keep following me.” (Luke 9:23) That’s why it’s hard. When we keep disowning those temptations, you are worthy of being Jesus’ true follower. Struggling means his approval.
alot of undercover gooners and sweet boys on this app. the blocker is cool tho
21 days! Thoughts!
I can’t even lie this is toughhhhh. Some days are amazing and I feel confident and full of energy, but other days I’m angry, lonely, frustrated, foggy, etc. Days 9-12 were super hard, and then it was easy for a few days. But then days 18-21 have felt like a fight. Add stress from work on top of that and sheeesh. I def feel like a drug addict suffering from withdrawal (because that’s exactly what’s happening lol). BUT, God is good and I know as long as I keep inviting him into my process and pressing on, I will experience true freedom! Gotta keep going!
Low key, this app makes me hurt
I mean it’s good and all to see progress but when you relapse and it goes to zero, it hurts man.
Day 3
Holly this shit is gonna be hard. But I’m going to keep on trying !
Day 1
Just got the app a few minutes ago, and I'm hoping I can get through this journey. I've been trapped for years. And I'm just exhausted... Exhausted of having this dark shadow following me, watching me. I tried on my own, so many times and always fell back and I'm just exhausted. I need the help... More than I realize. And I just hope I found the help here.
4 days
Filling good i full like i got this
It’s day 2 !
So it’s day 2, yesterday in my boxing training I had this crippling brain fog! And I was like wtf man I can’t focus I can’t hear what’s the coach was saying !! Everyone was looking like wtf dude focus .. anyway, so 2 months ago I went 12 days free and as I said before everyday was like a breeze of fresh air! I was chilled, relaxed and overall in good mood and I’m normally very snappy… at work I was less stressed and I wasn’t stressing out much… I work with mostly women I was getting a lot of attention tbh I don’t know what it is but it’s like you give a vibe that make women desire you more… Anyway it’s day 2 and tbh the future depends on this for me. There’s a lot at stake for me …
fuck me
i can’t stop
Gym as a saviour!
It never fails to amaze me how much more confident a solid session can get you. You feel on track to becoming a better man! Mind, Body and Spirit all sorted within that hour! Godbless working out…