I want to nut

I love the panic button the haptics are so jarring and distracting that it’s just this huge wake up call and I start doing breathing exercises. And you’re right there are a lot of people who need a complete reset or else it’ll set them straight to relapse. Thanks for the perspective.

Masturbation in and of itself is not bad, but to a recovering porn addict it can be extremely dangerous and push you to relapse. Masturbation is a normal expression of human sexuality, but your brain needs a dopamine reset. Give yourself as much time as possible to process the human reward system the way it is supposed to process. Maybe after a 3+ months you can have a healthy relationship with masturbation, but I highly doubt you can have one now. Take this with a grain of salt! I am also an addict and not an expert of the human brain. Just stuff I’ve learned on my journey. When I get the urge to do nicotine or masturbarte I talk to myself and ask myself why I’m feeling that way. I do that until I find the root cause of the feeling and ask myself what masturbating will do to fix that. That usually kills the urge and then I go about my day. Coming on the app also helps! The panic button, journaling/reflecting, and looking at the community notes helps a ton.

Masturbation is a gray area, because a lot of studies have shown health advantages related to it, but it’s not for everyone. For sure, across the board, doing it by itself is the lesser of two evils compared to porn, but having safe, consensual sex with a trusted partner is easily considered the healthiest way to release sexual energy. Abstaining from masturbation altogether is up to you. If orgasms from masturbation are a compulsive escape from stress regardless of porn, rewiring that is definitely worthwhile. Some people also want to save their sexual energy only for their partner or have religious reasons for not masturbating, but it’s ultimately YOUR choice. If it’s something you feel confused about or if you’re replacing it with equally (or arguably even more) brain-altering habits like taking THC to numb yourself, I can tell you from experience that the right therapist can make all the difference in finding what’s right for you!

When u wanna do it what do u do

I quit nicotine at the same time I quit PMO and it’s been rough haha but I feel like it’s been good for me. I tell myself if I can go without nicotine I can go without looking at porn.

Your brain is broken from being convinced that every time you’ve jerked it you were actually having sex with a beautiful person. Limiting your orgasms to actual sexual experiences with people in person won’t detract from your “detox” and masturbating will.

I’m not gonna imma smoke n control myself

What about having sex cause of this problem is that a solution

Your desire to PMO is a physiological response to a trigger you’ve been working into your brain via positive reinforcement for years. It’s Pavlov’s dogs, man. Figure out what the “bell” is that’s making you “salivate” and start to peel back the onion on why. If you’re going to orgasm, do it with a person that you’re in a relationship with.

Take a cold shower and talk to yourself (yes physically talk to yourself) about why you feel you NEED to orgasm. Chances are you’ll see it’s because you’re stressed, lonely, sad, bored, etc.

Pushups

Any other suggestions

You need to get busy with your hands, go lift some dumbbells