Struggling with the process

I have been working this app for multiple months, always a fail. When I started the process I was so focused on quitting porn and masturbation, but I pipeline and am away from my wife multiple weeks at a time. So normal sex life is not an option for me. I have learned that if I only focus on my wife, and masturbate to her when I feel aroused, everything is so much easier, I don’t feel all that pressure of not being able to release, I don’t get urges to watch porn, and ultimately it makes me chase her like i did when we where young. I know everyone’s journey is different, but just trying to stop it all at once is such a daunting task. Find what works for you, and roll with it. Curious if anyone has a similar experience