Stop encouraging Masturbation

All good bro, point understood

Sorry bro, I type a lot I recognized how it can be misleading so I’m trying to reconcile lol

Loving your wife means that you are with them through thick and thin from life until death. It’s not always gonna be a fairytale. That is a genuine person who needs that connection when you grow an intimacy with your wife sex is a gift to reiterate your intimacy, but if you’re doing it just to have sex then no you should not be in that relationship.

But I understand the confusion that was my fault. Let me re-emphasize if you are having sex with your partner, which is only supposed to be between a husband and a wife then you need to realize that having sex or selfish gratification will kill the relationship when you are having sex, especially to reproduce there is nothing wrong with that if it’s in the right context and with the right motive

Look bro I understand what ur saying now, the way u wrote it out was misguiding. I get what u mean

“Your dating somebody and having sex with them you might as well put a ring on it”

You’re missing the point it’s selfish sex, porn, masturbation, they are all the same having sex with your wife to show. Intimacy is a gift from God and sex is not bad when it’s in the right context.

Bro I’m jus stating what u said relax lol im not twisting ur words

I agree, marrying somebody for sex is not right. You’re twisting my words. What I’m saying is sex is supposed to be between a husband and a wife to share intimacy when it becomes selfish then it’s the wrong way.

Sex is good and it’s a gift from God when it’s honored in his way, I’m not saying sex is bad. I’m saying porn masturbation and selfish sex. All fits in the same realm and it uses the same neural pathways of your brain so finding excuses to do one or the other is just causingyour brain to continue on the journey and then when you get bored and your brain wants more it’s gonna stretch you to do more

Masturbating is just having sex with your hand in other words, your training your brain to go to masturbation for your difficult situation and I’m not minimizing them. The truth is life is a pain when you fight the pain rather than just give in you strengthen yourself and when things go bad in your relationship and you fall to masturbation rather than discussing with your wife or somethingthen you’re just finding an easy escape

Not necessarily, if ur dating someone and u wife them up just because ur having sex that’s jus retarded in my eyes

Yeah now u said selfish gratification so its a different story bud lol

Having sex just for a little lease if not showing love that’s just helping ease the pain

But you’re dating somebody and having sex with them you might as well put a ring on it and commit to the relationship because if something were to happen in that protection were to break now you have another life in your hands

But you’re dating somebody and having sex with them you might as well put a ring on it and commit to the relationship because if something were to happen in that protection were to break now you have another life in your hand

You don’t have to agree with me. I respect that, but I’m not afraid to be the loudest person in the group and the reality of it is when I said sex I meant for selfish gratification, which is not OK because it’s just selfish. She minds will just watch porn and masturbate now if you’re married and you wanna have intimacy with your wife, that’s different

I agree wit everything except the sex part. Don’t masturbate, don’t watch porn. Meaningful and protected sex is fine

Wrapping up. The truth is weather you guys believe it or not porn, masturbation, and sex for your own gratification is the same thing as porn itself they work the same parts of the brain. So when you encourage any of these you’re not helping the problem. Only making it worse. No excuses people!

Continuing…. But I was so hooked on porn because I had insecurity’s as a kid I was afraid of rejection so I believed that I didn’t need a girlfriend and risk getting rejected so I kept on watching porn and masturbating. Because I got the best of both worlds. Fast forward again. Porn and masturbation wasn’t cutting it any more. So now I had to force myself to risk rejection and find a girlfriend so we could build up our love life to ultimately “love each other” by having sex. “Locking it in” because I wanted to “love someone” and was hoping they would “love me” by sealing the deal. Dated one girl and we would always get close to sleeping together. But I was getting impatient so I started talking to other girls. Still “loving” the one I was dating others to try to “seal the deal” keeping options open. But you see what’s going on here it’s all selfish. Now fast forward to now. God changed my life, my view on what love is. And how strong my flesh really is. But he is stronger and I am working on life. And now God has shown me just how bad porn is and it’s lies. So I don’t struggle with that. But because of what porn did to me I don’t need it to put pictures in my head. That’s easy. So now even though going to porn sites isn’t an issue Masturbation is physical so I still can do both in a sense. The point is people arnt on this app just for porn. It’s the closes app to struggling with masturbation too. So don’t encourage it