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I’m afraid of what comes after

Day 0
by Michael
21 upvotes

This thought keeps popping in my head. I am attracted to different body types and personalities. And I learned a long time ago that a woman could be 10/10 in her body but her character could be a 1/10 and it really makes her ugly. But I have this concern: I want to live a healthy and active lifestyle. Like I enjoy hiking and swimming and the outdoors as much as I do video games. I’m not saying a woman has to be a goddess by any stretch of the imagination. But I’m afraid that after breaking free from porn, that I’ll suddenly be attracted to massive women who are, and I say this only to get your head to what I’m thinking here, one cheeseburger away from a heart attack. Can anyone speak to this? Does getting away from porn change what your physically attracted too that much? Or should I not be worried?

Comments (7)
Kirk55d ago

When your mind is healthy, your attractions will be healthy. Before I was consumed by and with porn I didn’t look at body types at all, really. Sure, I noticed a nice shape on a woman but is wasn’t the driving force behind my attraction. Sexy isn’t just skin deep - it goes to the soul. Porn prevents our souls from being fulfilled. Look forward to you porn-free attractions with joyful anticipation!

CJ55d ago

Once you succeed at quitting porn, you’ll be attracted to blue butted baboons. Sorry bro, you’re screwed

Jeff55d ago

I don’t have the same thought of worry but mine is similar. I’ve discussed with my fiancé that, because of my exposure to porn, I’m worried that I’ll lose control of what makes me the man i am when we get married and have sex. I always want to respect my girl in everything but being about to share those concerns with a significant other is great communication. And that’s one of the two important factors for finding the right person. Communication and friendship. Your core values should speak louder than your tastes. Stay strong and have faith. 🙏🏻

Lane55d ago

Scott knows what’s up

Scott55d ago

Don’t sweat it. Your tastes won’t change but hopefully you’ll also learn to value the person. People and bodies change. Find a true partner you want to be with for who they are, not just how they look.

Benjamin55d ago

I can’t speak for attraction after porn addiction because I’m still trying to break free myself, but I don’t think so. I think if youre going to end up with someone for the rest of your life, they’re probably going to value what you value as well. If that’s physical fitness, then you’ll probably remain attracted to that. The saying goes “you’ll attract what you exhibit in yourself” right? I don’t think I’ll ever be attracted to Gorlock the Destroyer 😂

Broly55d ago

I really don’t think you have to worry about that, plus you’ll know when the right one comes along and any good partner you’ll be able to communicate about what lifestyle you want for the both of you

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