Relapse after sex.
I’m married and have a lovely (and good looking wife). I love her I really do and she’s the biggest person I let down besides God when I relapse. She knows about the issue that most men (some women) deal with when it comes to porn and masturbating, she knows I’ve struggled with this myself. It’s current 7:46 where I am, and I’ve managed to confirm early today with my wife that we would be intimate. Knowing this I’ve been tempted to look at porn and “pre-game” so to speak. It’s bad and shameful, but I haven’t done it (at least this time). Now what I’m worried about is that I know myself, and I know that being intimate tonight is gonna be great for me and wife. But I also know that I’m going to tempted HEAVY tomorrow morning to fap, idk why but I know that it’s gonna hit me. Am I the only one? It’s like my brain (or my flesh) is telling me “this is better than what happen
It’s far easier said than done, but remember life isn’t a movie. We not expect to walk outside and find ourselves in the Marvel Universe, super powers and all. We know it’s fake, make believe, drama, acting. But, when it comes to porn, and expectations around sex, it’s harder to separate. What’s most telling (and perhaps helpful) is that you use the word ‘intimate’. And that’s how it should be, intimate sex is far, far better, far, far more sustainable, and far, far more satisfying than the fake sex of porn. Try to focus on that. The connection. The intimacy. Not the act itself, but how it makes you feel emotionally.