I just started dating this girl and I’m terrified to have sex with her. I’m afraid I won’t be able to perform because I know I can’t get hard without porn, let alone finish. I don’t know how much longer I can keep turning her down :(
I meant “make it all about her” in the first paragraph
It takes time to rewire your brain. Give it time and make sure you DO NOT relapse because it restarts the clock on how long until you can be freely intimate and get the erection in the moment. After last night I had the worst blue balls in my life which in the past I would’ve relieved after getting a little intimate on a date, but don’t give in, retain it and continue to build the tolerance so your brain can heal!! I’m right here with you man! Dealing with the same thing, it’s hard.
I am also seeing a girl and ran into this situation. What I’ve been doing is making it all about it, focusing on building tension and being attentive to her, then when it comes to “my turn” I have eased it out by saying “we don’t gotta do me every time” or something such like that. Most guys make intimacy about themselves anyways so this will make you stand out. But if it gets too frequent and you can’t give excuses, if you feel safe, explain to her that you are trying to hold off on pleasure for a while maybe for health, testosterone, anything like that.
I would suggest making it about her first you gotta get your body to adjust to not using porn. And you can do that with foreplay.
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I meant “make it all about her” in the first paragraph