You all probably don’t remember me but it’s me trey, I had reached that 23 day streak and was the best version of myself mentally but ever since I’ve been relapsing hard every single day and can never go days like I used to I feel like such a failure and just keep submitting
There’s a proverb about two arrows with one of them being optional. But for this case let’s say there is 3. The first arrow in your case is the feeling of wanting to watch porn and that discomfort. The second arrow is watching porn. The third arrow is shame. The last two arrows are optional. Especially the 3rd. The shame you feel isn’t helping you. You aren’t a bad person. You did something you weren’t supposed to. But that doesn’t define you. You are worthy whether you are on a 1 day streak or a 100 day streak. You can and will get through this. Show yourself love. Beating yourself up only makes it worse. Your happiness is not conditional. And I think you may see some serious progress if you choose compassion and love for yourself no matter what stage of quitting you’re at. Learn from these relapses and move on. Take what you can from them and dump them. Don’t carry them with you. You may hit a 70 day streak and relapse. Same principle. Learn and move on. Leave your shame at the door.
Relapsing is part of the process to quitting man. I’ve relapsed so many times it’s not even funny. What’s important is to understand what went wrong and learn from it for next time! Don’t beat yourself up, you’ll get there!
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Another thing… don’t count the days. Count the urges you process and the growth you see in your life. Fill your cups and forget the counter. I promise you will make serious progress.