Question for the community
Day 6
by Alex
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Hey everyone. Hope you all are doing well in your respective areas. My question is this: is avoiding porn the central focus of this app and what constitutes a relapse? For example, I’ve seen some here say that masturbation is a relapse, or that not sexualizing women is the goal as well as being porn free. What are your perspectives here?
For me, any unwanted sexual behavior is a relapse. But I also think there are levels. My main focus at the moment is on quitting porn and masturbation. If I have an intrusive thought, or take a second glance at a gorgeous woman, I give myself a little grace instead of just resetting my clock. Main reason for this is, when I relapse, I fall hard. If I counted every second glance at a woman as a failure, then I’d just fall into a “well I already screwed up, so I might as well screw up all the way” mentality. So relapse for me as it stands now is porn or masturbation.