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PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ, Need help

Day 22
by Nate
63 upvotes

Ok boys, this is my first post I’ve ever written. I’ve had the app for some time now, but have never posted so here it goes. I have been going strong now for a week. I haven’t relapsed and have stayed off instagram and TikTok as much as I can to not be deceived by wrongful stuff. I am feeling pretty good about myself and haven’t had any urges really, so that makes me happy. Ever since I have run out of lotion, it’s been way easier and I don’t plan on buying any anytime soon. On another note, I dated this girl for about a year and then we ended things and have been apart now for about 8 months. I went down a really rough road after we ended things and now I am filled with regret about those things. I texted her happy birthday the other day and we ended up talking until 1 am and have been texting every now and then. We talk about how fun are relationship was and all the good memories and she brings up a lot of good times we had. We flirt a lot but I just don’t know how to approach the situation since she goes to college in Florida and I go to college in Missouri. I am meeting her for dinner in February and was wondering how I should approach the situation since we both still have feelings for each other but don’t know how to react on those feelings. I also don’t know how she would feel about some of the poor choices I made while we were separated.

Comments (5)
Bradley•206d ago

Make sure you’re vocal about your boundaries and your priorities first and foremost.

S•206d ago

Don’t show too much interest, you’ll push her away. Make it feel like you will have a great life with or without her, she will be pulled in and attracted by that.

Nate•206d ago

Thank you for the encouragement guys. Good luck on your journeys and I’m blessed to have you all by my side.

Brodie•206d ago

Hey bro! Sounds like you’re both still very interested in one another. I’d say not to overthink it to much. Just be in the moment and appreciate the time spent together. If things are supposed to work out they will, nothing should be forced it should all flow naturally and by the sounds of it. It already is. Take things as they come man! I will say also. Getting back into a relationship with an ex after a short amount of time is kind of like opening the same book expecting a different ending. I’m not sure why you both separated the first time, maybe it was for superficial reasons that aren’t that big. Maybe it was for a serious reason. Now I could be wrong in this mindset. I’m just speaking from personal experiences. In regard to the choices you’ve made while separated. I get it. However if she is supposed to be in your life. She will understand, she will accept that at the end of the day you’re a human, we stuff up all the time and make mistakes. Don’t hold yourself to a standard that are your mistakes. Sounds like you’re trying your hardest to make amends for those and working on becoming a better man. I’m sure she will see that and that’s the most important thing.

Jacob•206d ago

Nate, congratulations on day 22! I’m married to my beautiful wife of 3 years with a little girl and another on the way. We’ve been through some ROUGH patches. She found out about my addiction and it nearly broke our marriage, we both developed destructive habits early in our marriage It took a lot of work and brutal honesty to get to where we are now. All this to say, your addiction has real consequences, if you do not get a handle on this now, you risk losing all again, like I almost did. I’m praying for you and I hope do build a beautiful relationship and break free from the thing we all struggle with.

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