Abandonment Issues
Day 10
by Ian
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There’s this girl I like and I think it’s mutual but we are just friends. I noticed whenever we talk I feel insecure whenever other men come up. Not because I’m jealous or anything but because I feel like I need to earn people’s love and attention. I’m scared if I don’t give or be attentive I’ll be abandoned. Idk how to really approach this, because this only comes out in relationships or me taking a liking to someone and that doesn’t occur often. This makes me want to self sabotage and return to porn. Any advice on how to get over abandonment
I’ve gone through a lot of what you’re dealing with and still battle with it. But I would look into reading a book called “how to heal anxious attachment” not only will it help kind explain where this is coming from inside you because it’s probably more of an issue you have with yourself and not her. And what this book did for me is give me an understanding of my feelings in these situations along with setting a solid ground for where to begin self healing and grow in the ways I wanted/needed