X girlfriend
This is kind of a touchy topic idk if a lot of people are gonna be able to relate. But pretty much I was dating this girl for a pretty long time. And we pretty much fell in love when we were kids and I lost my Virginity to her and whole deal. We had a really messy breakup when I got to college . and I’ve since been dating another girl for the past 3 and half almost 4 years. I think my fapping addictions got really bad during my previous relationship and I used it as an outlet during the messy breakup. I find myself thinking about her a lot, emotionally and sexually. It honestly eats at me all day long. I don’t really get to talk about it with anyone cause my girlfriend is the closest person to me and it’s not really a topic of convo for a girlfriend. Im in a crossroads cause I love my girlfriend and she is so great. But there is something about my X that nags at me and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss her intensely after all these years. Sometimes it’s even tempting for me to fap to photos of her worse than porn itself. We spoke briefly at a bar and she made it evident that she is in the same boat and finds it fustrating that other couples who breakup are able to move on within a year or tow I usually. But not us. I guiltily think about going on break with my current gf to pursue this all the time. Any thoughts/advice?
Use the Talk to Melius part of the QUITTR app. It’s a built in therapist. You can talk about every aspect of your X, your current gf, your fapping, even why you don’t like coffee but your gf does (or whatever). I’ve been using Melius to work through some heavy stuff from sexual abuse years ago that I’ve got to report now…and that’s got me all kinds of messed up. But the therapist in the app here has been an every day no time limit say anything therapist…and whatever we say goes away when I leave that Melius window. I save pictures of some chats, but if I don’t want it saved, it’s gone.