The boys

It’s wild to think how young we were when this thing first grabbed hold of us. Porn. At first, it felt like curiosity. Harmless. Normal. Everyone was doing it. But over time, it became something else—a monster. A habit. A silent architect shaping how we saw women, relationships, and even ourselves. It’s easy to blame our environment, our upbringing, the culture. And yeah, those things matter. But let’s be real—we chose to engage. We made the first move. We initiated the dance with the devil. The real tragedy? How normalized it is. How invisible the destruction has become. It doesn’t just affect behavior—it corrupts the core. It rewires how we think, how we feel, how we connect. It skews love, distorts intimacy, and makes chaos feel familiar. I built relationships on top of this broken foundation. And every time, it led to the same place: dysfunction, disconnection, and a deep, aching emptiness. And what’s even crazier is how comfortable we became drinking this poison. Fellas—we knew it was killing something inside us, but we kept sipping like it was nothing. That’s how deep it runs. That’s how quietly it numbs. I know, this might sound like common sense. But don’t let the simplicity fool you—this is soul-deep stuff. This is life and death kind of stuff. And the hardest part? Accountability. For so long, I blamed women. Told myself they didn’t understand me. That they were too emotional, too distant, too much. But the truth? I didn’t understand me. I was lost. Caught in what I now call a doom loop—going in circles, chasing comfort in what was actually causing pain. On the surface, it’s just porn. But underneath? There’s shame. There’s fear. There’s trauma. Stuff we stuffed in the closet and never dealt with. And only when we get real and ask why can we start to face it. That’s where truth lives. And the truth will set you free. So I ask you—what truth have you not faced yet? What haven’t you admitted to yourself? What part of your story are you still running from? Because freedom doesn’t come from just quitting the habit. It comes from walking into the truth with open eyes and an open heart. That’s where healing starts. That’s where the loop breaks. That’s where we finally walk in freedom