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This isn’t related to porn (or maybe it is idk anymore)

Day 6
by Trixz
28 upvotes

So me and my girlfriend are long distance and my love language is physical touch I know how to express my love for her through other ways but I feel like she doesn’t appreciate it. So I’ve dated her for a collective of around 3-4 months now and I try my best to make sure she knows that I only plan to be the best I can for her and that she’s not alone in her struggles and that I’m not here to hurt her but instead to listen and to heal her and yet somehow I feel as though she doesn’t trust me or she doesn’t find interest in me. I’m starting to feel as though I’m not enough for this girl and that I should just call it but I also feel a need to help and I think that’s why I’m putting up with it. I know I could probably do better but my heart sees something in her that my mind and others around me don’t see I feel used and taken advantage of and all I want is to help her but that never ends in the way I want it to and now I’m just wondering do I call it quits or do I stick around? I need help

Comments (3)
Adam93d ago

No problem man, good luck with the talk. Hope it clears things up for you guys

Trixz 93d ago

I appreciate your time man this helps a lot I’ll talk to her

Adam93d ago

I was actually in a really similar situation. My girlfriend and I went long-distance, and honestly, that’s when things started to unravel. At first, I tried to hold things together, whenever there was a problem, I did my best to be supportive. I was always the one reaching out, asking what was wrong, trying to understand. But half the time, she wouldn’t even tell me what was bothering her. In her mind, I was too far away to do anything about it anyway, so what was the point? Even so, I kept trying. I wanted to make it work. But over time, it started to feel really one-sided, like I was the only one putting in any effort. The turning point came when my phone broke and I had no way to contact her for two full days. I was panicking the entire time, worried that she’d be upset or think I was ignoring her. The moment I got my phone working again, I expected to see missed calls or messages from her. But there was nothing. Not even one. That hit hard. It made me realize that if something had happened to me during those two days, she wouldn’t have even known. When I finally confronted her about it, she broke down crying and begged me not to end things. But deep down, I knew I had to. Looking back now, it was the right decision. I’m not saying you should break up with her or do what I did, but what I am saying is that you should really sit down and talk to her. Be honest about how you’re feeling, and let her know that you need to feel like she’s just as invested as you are. Relationships can’t survive on one person’s effort alone. Make sure you’re both on the same page about what you want and where things are going. It’s better to have that tough conversation now so you can avoid the kind of imbalance that ended mine.

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