Concerned

Fully dedicated to no fap because I’ve basically scared myself out of it. For example me and my girl were intimate and midway through I lost erection. I had blue balls for like a week because I read that blueballs can produce a bigger load and I wanted to do that for her. I was also kinda nervous and uncomfortable sitting down leading up to the entire night. But before months ago when we almost got intimate and I didn’t have a condom, I was rock solid. Is this performance anxiety or ED because the same night I lost an erection I got hard like hours later just thinking abt her