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How do I approach a woman I find pretty?

Day 3
by L
98 upvotes

18 year old college kid here, one of my main objectives as a result of quitting porn is to finally be able to talk to women I find attractive. I’m 6 feet, social, and somewhat built, but every time when I talk to a pretty girl I just internally collapse. There is one girl at my school who is a 10/10 but I am too shy to talk to her and prolly she doesn’t even know I exist. I need advice lol

Comments (15)
Will217d ago

Thing is it’s built up in your head to be nervous because like it’s been said, you fear rejection. Key to being good at talking to women is the key to being good at anything, practice! Try to not place each beautiful woman on a pedestal, there are billions of them! Just get after it, and if you come off lame or weird who cares. No one really gives af about that interaction except you. Move on, see what you did that made it not work and try again! Before you know it you’ll just be chatting with whomever you want. Pro-tip- the conversation never gets stale if you keep girls talking about themselves. They love to do it. Just ask the right questions and add your .02 in between and maybe a joke and you’re in!

Chuka Ashiogwu218d ago

*walk

Chuka Ashiogwu218d ago

I would just shoot ur shot bro. I would talk up to her, give her a compliment and then carry the conversation from there. Rejection is part of the game, even guys that get the most girls get rejected. It’s a numbers game. It hurts way more to not shoot ur shot and become regretful then to shoot ur shot and get rejected. If you get rejected, who gives a shit. Take it to the chin and move on. It’s her loss at the end of the day. There are other beautiful girls out there.

L218d ago

@jaiden, tbh that is not my goal physique, I just want to have bigger arms and broader shoulders. I am very insecure about my body since I always have been a skinny person throughout my life.

L218d ago

@jaiden, tbh that is not my goal physique, I just want to have bigger arms and broader shoulders. I am very insecure about my body since I always have been a skinny person throughout my life

Jaiden218d ago

Your goal physique is some dude juiced to the gills. Just shoot your shot. Worse case she says no and you’re no worse off

L218d ago

@David @Jacob, thx for y’all’s input ima try to start a convo with her once my break is over. I always wanted someone in my life since the age of 6, and have been waiting for 12 years. The main reason why I am extremely shy/careful in my situation is because I have an extremely specific type that pretty hard to find. She is into Arab boys and I somewhat count since I am half Arab and Asian. We both are neuroscience majors and are bio nerds lol.

Jacob218d ago

Don’t worry about your physical appearance too much I would focus on your mental. Make sure you are ready for a relationship and being able to keep your addiction out of the relationship when you can do that I would go up to her, being nervous is apart of it so don’t worry and it’s pretty simple getting a girls number just be upfront and ask. God bless my brother, good luck.

David218d ago

you have a fear of rejection you need to get over it deep down it’s rooted in biological fear that a woman rejecting you means it could be the end of your lineage you have to get past that biological thinking because men that are good with women get rejected 80 percent of the time because it’s a numbers game but you should be leveling up so you decrease those odds

David218d ago

you have a fear of rejection you need to get over it deep down it’s rooted in biological fear that a woman rejecting you means it could be the end of your lineage you have to get past that biological thinking because men that are good with women get rejected 80 percent of the time because it’s a numbers game but you should be leveling up so you decrease those odds

L218d ago

But thx for the kind words y’all

L218d ago

@sonny Tomlinson, in your opinion should I wait to talk to her when I achieve my goal physique or should I just do it now?

L218d ago

I understand but, I don’t want to creep her out by doing something incorrectly

Sonny Tomlinson218d ago

Just talk to them man, find common ground make them laugh and be you. The rest will follow. Remember how far you’ve come and you’re the fucking man. Good luck g

Dylan Alvarado218d ago

Remember you’re a grown man a grown man goes after what he wants and needs

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