Confusion

My short response would be show her this app. It will show her the reasons why you want to change, how many other men out there are like you trying to change and finally that you are on a streak and changing right now!

Like others have said, it’s time to move on. If that was too much for her to deal with, in all likelihood it always will be. Especially if she had already been dating you for a year and half. Get in the Word and use the extra time you have now to focus on your relationship with God. When you do that the other relationships will fall into place

I appreciate everyone’s time and response. I have started following gods word recently. As I’ve never been religious, it is hard to understand and comprehend some things. Thank you John Hagala for that in depth response. I ordered that book and am deeply motivated by your words. Thank you for that amazing response. God bless!

That’s a tough one brother. But congrats on getting one foot in front of the other. It might be that what God has in store for you is someone who may be a better match for you, or maybe the future you and her will come back together. Regardless, God has good plans for you. Stick to the narrow path my friend, it’s a hard but well-worth journey. If you are still friends/friendly to each other after a month of resisting the temptation, just be open and honest, let her know how your journey is going. You’ve already told her your struggle, which means you trust her to a great degree, so it wouldn’t be too unusual to share how you’re doing. A few bits of advice though: Approach her without any intention of asking for her to come back. In the grand scheme of things, relationships end for a reason, part of that reason might be you two aren’t meant to be together. You must be clear of mind without any hidden agendas. You’re sharing your progress with her as a trusted friend, not an ex. Thank her for the kindness she showed to you when you were vulnerable with her. Some details are best left unsaid. You don’t need to share everything about your journey. If you have a solid streak of resistance, all that need be said is something like, “it’s been [increment of time] since I started resisting” The things you’ve done during your times of temptation are details that really no woman needs to hear. Their minds process this stuff differently, and it can often be just too much. Even if they ask for the details, it’s just not worth getting into it. General information is all that need be shared. A good book that helps get into it is “Every Man’s Battle”. They often have a section at the end of each chapter called “the heart of a woman”, which talks about the perspective from the authors’ wives. Pretty interesting but can be hard to read about. It’s a good book, highly recommend. Chapters are small and digestible. Just know it gets very personal as the authors talk about their experiences. Anyways, I’m no guru. Most of this is just from my own experience. Everyone’s journey is different, and it’ll take work on your part to figure it out as you go. I pray you a prosperous journey, brother. God bless

It’s her loss. I know it sucks man I went through exactly what you were going through except me and my girl were together even longer before I told her. She ended up staying with me for another year, but broke up with me last year. My best advice would be to try to move on the best you can. Go have fun with your friends and get in shape. Just try to focus on bettering yourself and let your actions do the talking to those around you.

Talking about porn addiction openly with a girlfriend takes guts. If she can’t appreciate that, then you have nothing to prove her. Let her go and get better. In future reference, some things are better when not told. Sometimes you gotta deal shit by yourself.

This is best for the both of you. Changing for somebody else isn’t genuine change, you need to do this alone and truly try to be emotionally and sexually secure in yourself

Don’t go back, focus on changing for you, not for her. Then when you meet the next one and build that relationship with her you know it will be one that isn’t effected by porn

Being an honest man, not just about porn, but in everything you do is so important. You’ve got this. You’re in my prayers. Do not give up.

I’m in a very similar boat, except my xgf found my porn addiction and felt like she couldn’t be with someone that. You asked how you prove it to her? You can’t. You need to do it for yourself. She will see it once the time is right. That’s all I know. That’s what gets me through. I know it doesn’t help. If you want my only advice, it’s to write a letter.

You been dealing with this for your whole life. This is new for her to process. Give her time, focus on a relationship with God or life in general to improve and if it is meant to be, you guys will be together. Don’t fixate on porn too much cause then it will rule your mind. Focus on things of more importance and you won’t even have the time to deal with porn

I’m sorry brother. It’s hard for women to understand how difficult it is to be addicted to porn. I have no idea how you should get her back. If you love her and think she’s the one you want your kids to call Mom, then do whatever it takes. The only reason it works with my wife is because I’ve been honest with her since the 2nd day we started officially dating. Stay strong brother, I’m proud of you for being honest with her. Now strive to be honest in everything you do so that she knows you’re not lying about it anymore.

Honestly just move on. If yall been tog for 1 1/2 years and she’s breaking up over that , just move on. True woman wouldn’t do such

Well she will be dealing with that with 9 out of 10 guys so her odds are against her. She shoulda stayed with someone who at least wants to fix the problem