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I don’t know what else to do.

Day 4
by Finn
21 upvotes

It seems like no matter what I do it’s never enough. I’m trying so hard to man up but my parents are not having it, saying it’s “toxically masculine.” They’d prefer me a feminized loser, and it shows in that they keep making excuses for me to just relapse. They won’t let me pursue a relationship with God and they won’t let me go to the gym. I am a minor and I live with them, I’m completely directionless and I don’t know what to do in life. I only ever wanted to be a net positive, but it seems like I’m going to grow up to be a detriment to society. And no one is telling me HOW to man up, just that I should. I believe them, but how do I become a man? Where do I start? And how the hell do I know you’re not lying like the last 10 guys I listened to? It’s exhausting, and truthfully if I don’t fix this by the time I come of age, I’ll kill myself. I’m so tired of living as a detriment to society, I’m tired of being sub par. I just wanted to be a net positive, if I can’t do that then life is meaningless.

Comments (7)
Finn77d ago

Funny, I used to watch Hamza Ahmed and he became a Jeffrey, you could say. I’m disappointed in him.

Cristiano 77d ago

Hey, I can see how deeply you’re struggling, and I want you to know you’re not alone in this. It’s really brave of you to open up and seek help—that’s a huge first step. About becoming more confident and “manning up” in a healthy way, I’d suggest checking out Hamza’s YouTube channel. He talks a lot about self-improvement, confidence, discipline, and masculinity—not in a toxic way but in a way that helps young men build themselves up positively. His advice might give you practical steps and motivation to start shaping your life the way you want it. Remember, becoming the person you want to be doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s okay to take small steps. Focus on things you can control, like setting small goals, building routines, and developing habits that make you more in charge of your life. Hamza’s videos can guide you through that kind of journey. If you ever feel overwhelmed or hopeless, please reach out to a trusted adult, counselor, or mental health professional. Your life matters, and help is always available.

Kevin77d ago

Bro, I know the struggle living in a toxic household and feeling stuck, I wanted to end it all aswell. But you just gotta trust the process, it’s not alwayse gonna be like that, just gotta push through the hard periods. Im an living example of it. It certainly fucking worth the pain, trust yourself and believe your right to know god.

Walid77d ago

Its about finding your own way, there’s no book, religion or dogma that will give you every answer you seek, start by gaining yourself by being free from all types of lust related shit people are addicted to.. then work on sharpening your mind, through learning.. and with time you’ll notice how the man you want to be is slowly coming to reality. No need to rush or freak out just go with the flow step by step.

Samuel77d ago

I third that^^

JT77d ago

I second what D. Charts said^

D. Charts77d ago

Jesus Christ is the only answer. Read the gospels- Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John

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