I didn’t take this seriously before…
Day 0
by Darien
98 upvotes
I didn’t take this seriously before, and my behaviors have really ruined my relationship with my girlfriend. She set firm boundaries and I crossed them and when she asked me about it, and gave me a chance to be honest, I was adamant that I didn’t watch anything, but she showed me search history. I feel so ashamed for believing in myself, gaslighting her, and not being honest or even remembering. I could really use some support, this is the first time I’m actually taking this seriously and I hope it’s not too late.
I’m currently on the girlfriend side of this. It is so painful. I commend you for taking steps and taking it seriously. I am doing this in solidarity with my boyfriend, to support his recovery and to (try) to go through the recovery process with him. It’s so hard. We are only in the first week, he has had one relapse, but that is expected. Give each other grace and have patience with yourself. This is so hard and the porn industry sets you up for failure. Recognize it for the charlatan it is, destroyer of trust and eroded of integrity. If you truly love your girlfriend (like, she’s the one for you), don’t hesitate to be authentic with your struggles, your recovery journey, to show vulnerability and to rely on her strength during this time. If she is your match, she’ll have your back on this. 💜