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I need christian dating advice

Day 2
by Andrew
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This isn’t related to porn and I’m sorry about that, but I need advice from a group of christian men. Also sorry for how long this post is. I’m 21 years old, and I have never even been on as much as a date. I long for a deep connection with a woman but have never been able to find someone that is christian, single, and someone I’m attracted to, that also wants to go on a date with me. I would like to think I’m a decent looking guy, a devoted follower of Christ, kind, loving, strong, confident, likable, all the things. I’ve been working on myself for the past couple years to truly be the man that the woman I’m looking for deserves. I’ve especially recently started to feel quite lonely. My brother just got married less than 2 weeks ago and that has not helped with my desire to love somebody and be loved by somebody. I want what my brother and sister-in-law have. What do I do?! The only area of my life that I can think of that truly needs work is my sexual immorality with pornography and masturbation, and that’s why I downloaded this app so I can finally destroy that once and for all. Any and all advice is appreciated.

Comments (6)
Cohen68d ago

I feel that when you are actively searching for love or a partner, you most always fall short. As long as you continue to follow God and keep the teachings of the Church in mind, then God will recognize you once you are ready and send you someone. All you can do now is work on yourself, your body, and your faith. Let God handle the rest for you!

Darnell69d ago

They don’t deserve you. You are a king

Darnell69d ago

Don’t force it. Focus on your purpose. I’ve been there. I’m 25. I got a nice crib and do really okay for myself. The last thing I want is a woman nagging me in my space. This is real life not a move. She gon come over sometimes but it’ll get old. Same w the next girl. And the next stay single. Vibe out bro. Real talk. That love shhh is overly simplified bc the mud it tracks is crazy. Especially when you’re young and naive

Ben69d ago

honestly bro it’s all about confidence and swallowing that nervousness and going up to an attractive girl and just being yourself. porn creates those pathways in your brain that make false expectations, forcing you to look at a woman with lust. i recently had my first relationship with who i thought was going to be my wife, but she broke up with me and that left me confused and hurt. I am 21, but had to go out of my way and shoot my shot. you have to continue to trust that God has your best intentions and that the perfect person will come along, but it will take you to make that first move. keep hitting the gym, rooting yourself in the gym, and being ok with getting rejected, but it all hinges on you making that first step of introducing yourself. take advantage of your sister in law by asking her good ways to approach women, as i have used my sister in law many times for women advice. make your prayers intentional about how you want companionship, but are ok with waiting on Gods timing. praying for you andrew and this difficult season of loneliness.

Seth69d ago

Trust me bro, I’m in the same boat. God has someone waiting for us when He sees we’re truly ready and formed to take the hand of one of His daughters. I’ve been on a journey of celibacy entirely and been working on developing myself to be a true man of God, and I’m your age. We must continue to strive for the cross and once our relationship with God becomes the most important one in our lives, He will see your heart and determine whether your worthy to love one of His daughters. Try some deep self reflection, pray, and continue on your journey of fleeing from every temptation of lust. Only God can give us the right one for us, so for now keep building. In due time, He will soon give both of us our wives when we’re ready to take His daughters in marriage. Stay strong brother, we’re in this together

Andrin69d ago

Dont force to be loved. The right time wil come

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