I always see guys who are relatively less attractive and more out of shape than me and they are always with a girl. Like is it my personality or just social anxiety or what but I have had no luck. I mean I’m still a virgin and it’s not like I am ashamed of it. But like I have only been with 2 people and I’m 22 with no hope honestly.
No it’s probably because they aren’t addicted when I go like 30 or 60 days without it the way I view woman and talk to them and just have natural connections in a way that I really can’t when I’m using. It’s just p wires your sexual brain in such a way that actually getting a girl is ten times harder
Don’t worry about body count. It is not something to be proud of, if the sex has no real connection
Literally same here! hopefully you’ll feel better and gain some self confidence by sticking with this! It’s best to try something new to try change your life if this is how you feel.
I want to be free of this but when you’re alone what is there to do. It’s not like I can just tell my family😂
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I married at age 30 (as a virgin). While I’m thankful that I entered into my marriage without the soul ties to other women that come from the intimate bonding of intercourse; I brought more than 10 years of masturbation and off-on porn addiction into our marriage. In my desire to stay sexually pure with women, I used masturbation as substitute for relationships and a cop out for friendships and social activities. The addiction filled all my needs for people and led me to become a social recluse with no real relationships with anyone, not the skills to develop any. When I got married, my mind didn’t know how to handle sex—with the addiction continuing until just recently saying enough, it still doesn’t. In my commitment to not cheat on my wife, even in my thoughts, I’ve avoided porn that would be sex like our married sex or with another woman that would get me fantasizing in a way that could lead me to wanting to find another woman. Because I’m very empathetic, I can feel emotions of others, so it’s left me for years looking at borderline gay porn, to imagine feeling the same as the folks I’m viewing. That messes up my mind so that I can barely even find my wife attractive when we can get together (e have a very busy house of 7-8 people, she has a very busy schedule, and I have long-covid-which leaves me in a constant state of exhaustion and pain. I’m on 25-30 prescriptions (some are as needed) to manage various medical and mental health issues. I’m in my mid-50’s now. I’m encouraging you to stick with your pledge and plans to get and stay free from this now…if you let it grow, as I did for decades, it can cause significant harm that you may not be able to fix before it’s too late. On the other hand, we serve a great and mighty God! He honors our repentance and desires to honor Him with our lives, eyes, bodies. When we turn from our mistakes and seek Him, He does amazing miraculous work to restore what the devil has stolen from us because of our bad decisions. If you are not religious, the same principle still applies…once you stop doing destruction and start doing constructive things, it’s amazing how quickly the destruction fades and is replaced by new and wonderful growth. Keep making great small choices in the moments for the years of a better life!