I Had 2 Dates With Different Women Last Two Nights

I had two dates the past two nights with different women. They went really well and slightly escalated. In my mind I want to take things slow but I can feel myself lusting. So I initiated escalation both times. Especially the second date, it became very intimate and “took care of her” but couldn’t get erect myself. I know it is a good thing because it will force me to take things slow, but it also frightens me slightly that it is an issue. I want to have full control over myself and my stimulation/arousal and be free to engage in experiences in the future. Maybe it was just a case where I knew I probably shouldn’t have been getting that “hot and heavy” so my body reacted and didn’t allow the erection as to guarantee nothing that wasn’t supposed to be, to happen. I hate that I’m still a victim to lust. Streak still on though. Let me hear your thoughts. It is definitely scary and discouraging, not to mention I have blue balls out of he** right now which sucks, I’ll stay strong tonight though. I really like both of the women and have second dates already set up for later this week which I will communicate taking the foot off the gas a bit for now and focus on connection, which hopefully they agree.