Lost

About to hit 16 days without porn but I’m kind of in a predicament. I spent the first 12 days not masturbating at all and I did feel like I was making progress but I kind of started losing my mind at some point. I told my family about it and they told me that retaining semen was unhealthy and that masturbating is normal so I’ve been masturbated without pornography for the last few days but don’t really feeling like I’m making progress and being proud everyday that goes by like when I was when I was retaining semen. So im quite unsure of what to do, if anyone has advice I’ll gladly take it.