Question

You set your own rules, what do you want to achieve? If a loving relationship with physical intimacy is of value to you, then your protocol should reflect that. If the physical part is the only thing you’re after, make sure your motives are clear so you’re developing a relationship and not just hooking up for the sex. It’s about becoming your best self - does your relationship help you get there? If so, great, keep at it. If not, what might need to change?

Having sex is definitely not the same thing as watching porn in terms of how it affects the brain. Dopamine regulation is more balanced when having sex as there’s emotional satisfaction, and regulation can be hijacked when watching porn by instant stimulation.

Nah, its not like jerking off to porn so you should be fine