So 4 days ago, I relapsed after 19 days of great effort. Now here I am on day 4 and I feel as if I’m struggling more than I was at any point during my 19 days. I’ve been praying, working out, listening to music, and trying my best to distract my brain but nothing seems to be working as well as it did before. Does anyone have any advice?
I would also add staying off or limiting social media, there are many triggers on those apps. And try to not have too much alone time. I often don’t get temptations until I’m all by myself. Hang in there!
Hello. I’m new to this. So far, my biggest help has been to go to the reflections tab or the reasons tab, and use it almost as reverse psychology. Think about how you feel after the fact you relapse. Usually only good for a moment, then back to not good and knowing you need to try again. So I go to the Reasons tab, and I write down how I will feel after I do it but reverse. So if I know “I’ll be disappointed in myself for not being in control”, I’ll add a reason “to NOT be disappointed in myself and knowing I have control”. That usually can put me into a refocus and back on course. Hope this helps
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That’s your brain going through the shame cycle. You feel shame for breaking this good streak and your brain is trying to cope with that feeling by resorting to the oldest and most thorough coping mechanism in your life so far, porn. Stop counting the days. I’m not saying don’t use the app or the counter, obviously they’re great. But stop being so focused on the number of days. If you go 100 days without porn and you break, the shame would lead to you probably relapsing multiple times a day over and over for weeks. I recommend you look up Sarah Brewster’s Overcoming Pornography podcast on Apple or Spotify. She talks a lot about this.