Advice from Christians

Listen. I’m not saying this as someone that’s perfect but because you asked for my advice this is what I would do in this scenario. Read James 4 and psalm 51 and then just pray. Sit with God for as long as you feel led to. After you’re done and you’ll know what I mean when you read it. God will lift you up and you can remind yourself of His promises in Romans 8 and in John 5-6. Going forward understand how weak you are. You can’t just resist temptation by willpower alone. Don’t have your mind set on how to gratify your flesh or focused on the sin as that leads to death but instead focus on how to glorify the spirit. Make a practice of reading the Bible for 5-15 minutes a day before you even go on your phone in the morning. Remove your triggers. Social media, secular music, going out certain places. If this seems too costly to you. Consider if you actually want to be free from this sin or just the consequences. The Holy Spirit is your best friend and he helps you in our weakness. God’s Grace is sufficient for us. Trust in Him. It is predestined we are conformed to the image of His son. If you are truly born again

I wiser person would say that if you ever find yourself in such situations with someone than you relationship isn’t built on Jesus

And for the second response , thanks I’ll be sure to let her know and show her my boundaries for doing this stuff again as I think she also knows we really shouldn’t have

To answer the first response I did ask yes, I regret it now but I did ask, and we were in a situation where we both had to be outside after a event and we could go anywhere else, so we went kind of away from people and the it happened. I want to hear what you guys think I’m just stuck I don’t know what to think I feel as if I messed up so bad and I’m missing something, I willingly but I regret it so much

Just so you know, nothing surprises God as he exist outside of time. The fact that you feel bad shows you have soft heart posture. It seems like waiting to marriage is important to you, so discuss it with your girlfriend. And correct her and let her know God doesn’t want sexual acts of any kind before marriage because it isn’t under His protection and will hurt us. If she receives that grow together with her on your journey with God. If this is something that she doesn’t receive and is causing you to struggle, reconsider your options. As a man you lead your wife and children so let her know your struggles and that you want to prevail through it

Honestly confused about how this happened. Did you ask her to do this. Are you putting yourself in situations where this is likely to happen? What advice are you looking for at this point?