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Day 40
by Ben
287 upvotes

I have been porn-free for 40 days now. There is days where the urge is greater than ever and I feel like I can’t do it a second more, I think we have all been there, and there is days where it feels like I can really do this for eternity. My life has improved already on so many different levels. Not only have I improved my relationship to the love of my life, which I was about to lose to my porn addiction, but also did I learn many new ways on how to cope with stress and treat anxiety in MANY healthier ways than to masturbate to porn. Additionally, I can say that the thought of being a person that CAN get addicted more easily than others will always stay addicted, is true - at least for me. Turn your addiction into a healthy one. For me I have discovered running again, Me vs. Me. Make something greater out of the energy you have wasted before for porn, challenge yourself, grow, and, most importantly, strive for something that’s longterm. Let’s be honest, masturbation, however long it takes, gives you some useless short seconds, even though they might feel good, of immediate dopamine rush. Everytime you seem to be about to fail, think of where it’s gonna get you. SECONDS of meaningless relief, instead think bigger and do something for yourself, your mentality and quietly let your own self and people you love see the man you really are.

Comments (6)
Ben112d ago

@andrew let’s go, love it, we got this

Andrew112d ago

I’m gonna try to shift my focus to getting better at fishing. Let’s do this 🤙

Ben112d ago

@alexander: I get it, the things that are depicted in porn can easily disrupt your view on sex with the person you love for so much more than just sexual preferences. What I have been doing with my girlfriend, and what I can recommend therefore, is, to reduce it to the minimum. We are very experimental with sex, which isn’t per se bad, but be sure you know the beauty of intimacy, shift your perspective to feeling her, loving her. Rebuild physical trust and create a new sexual connection to her. You got it.

Jacob112d ago

Love it

Alexander112d ago

I am in a relationship with my partner, and I was about to lose her because of my porn addiction. My problem is that I compare the sex with my girlfriend to what I see in the videos, and I expect her to behave, dress, and do the things the women in those videos do. Preferably every day. I know that these are just videos, but because of them, I have developed such a distorted view of reality, and it’s harmful to my relationship.

You112d ago

Good stuff. Good advice too.

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