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Better Than This

Day 0
by Joey Fleming
679 upvotes

Just a quick warning I’m gonna vent so skip if you don’t want to hear a 20 year old’s rambling. Writing this after relapsing, for the 3rd day in a row. I went strong for about a week after downloading this app; and now I’m back to daily. This time was different, because I thought of stopping. Not just stopping but of God, the Devil, the old girl, and my life. I told myself, “be like the 1%, be stronger” and yet here I am. This addiction won’t leave me and I don’t know how to get rid of it. It’s to the point where I’m sexualizing my female friends, some of which are in relationships. Then there’s the old girl. Long story short I was obsessed and had to block her because of that. I never knew if she was the one, doubt she is but who knows what’s in store. During my relapse I thought of her. Now I’m a religious guy and wondered, “where would we be at if it weren’t for this lust?” I can’t say for sure but I doubt my obsession would be as prevalent. I want to be better than this but it’s hard to resist the visions of porn that flash in my head. It’s gotten so bad to where I’ve considered doing it work, that’s why I even downloaded this app. Don’t know what I’m hoping to get, maybe advice. I’m not strong enough to go on any further.

Comments (7)
Corey140d ago

Realizing that you need to quit p already puts you ahead of the game. I had to personally ask myself would I rather continue to do it to a screen for the rest of my life and make a change and one day give that to someone special and start a family. God and your future are rooting for you. Please don’t give up.

Josh140d ago

For me, when I consider relapse, I tell myself that watching p is really only CREATING a deeper void, rather than actually filling it. That if I watch more now, I’m only setting myself on fire to douse myself in water, when I could just STAY AWAY from the fire completely

Jonathan140d ago

Your recognition of the attachment is the first step. Your success will come from the shame and guilt of failure. That’ll stop you from sexualizing your friends and past relationship. Because in your heart, you know it’s wrong. So do we. Everyone here shares this pain with you bro. You’re not alone

DR140d ago

You’ve got this man… you’re not alone. Stay strong and remember why you’re on this app trying to get better. Moe’s comment above is spot on too

Josh140d ago

Just a reminder… God loves you so much. Nothing has or will change that. Remember that the love God has for you completes you, satisfies your every need. The devil will lie to you and try to convince you that porn is satisfying your needs and that you are filling a hole with it, but these lies crumble in the face of God’s love. You’ve got this, I’m praying for you. I’m right there with you so we will fight together.

Bennett 140d ago

I was in the same spot. It took a lot for me to finally get the blinders off. You have to try to see the weight of what you’re doing. How it will affect your future wife and children. How it will affect the success of a marriage. It wasn’t until I really realized what I wanted in life that I realized what I had to do. It took a lot of pain and a lot of failure to get to the place I am now in terms of actively pursuing righteousness. Find friends that will actually hold you accountable, find men that you can look up to.

Moe140d ago

Listen bro, I know it is difficult but it is something that needs to be done I am a little older than you so I will tell from experience that i regret not stopping this earlier it affected me in ways that I never knew it could (or I ignored it at least) you are still young you still have chance to comeback stronger. What I have as an advice for you is if you were about to relapse really think of the consequences and try and be aware of what you are doing and analyze the situation and see what made you relapse or think about relapsing and last advice is if you get the urge even slightly just leave your room and sit with your family or friends if you live alone just leave the house and go for a walk. Sorry for rambling but lately this has really affected me.

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