Hello, new here
Day 0
by Julian
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I’m not sure on how to deal with all of this shame and guilt that I carry. I’ve gone weeks without it at a time without the lustful thoughts going away, and it always seems to pull me back in before I can make decent progress I am tempted by the negative thoughts in my brain that tells me to go back to it because of how much I’ve already done it, just one more time wouldn’t hurt right? I don’t know how to ignore this negativity, and especially how not to give in to it because it seems to linger no matter how much I try to distract myself
Bro, shame and guilt are part of the trap. That voice saying “you’ve already messed up, might as well keep going” — it’s not you. It’s the addiction, lying to stay alive. You’ve gone weeks clean before. That proves you’ve got it in you. The lustful thoughts don’t magically disappear — they fade when you stop feeding them. Every time you say no, you weaken them. And here’s the truth: You’re not dirty. You’re not broken. You’re healing. This isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning to see the urge as nothing. You’re not failing — you’re fighting, and you’re not alone. Keep showing up. One day, the voice will whisper… and you won’t even flinch.