What do I do

I tried telling her that too Sai, and she still doesn’t understand me. Coming from a house with no male presence, she doesn’t understand these type of things and doesn’t understand that it’s not abt her. I know that lying to her is bad aswell, but I really am showing improvement guys, and I know 1000% if I told her at this moment we’re done . For me in my head I just think if I do tell her it should be at a time when I’ve gone a long time without porn

Myles is right too. My girl struggled with insecurity, we had a conversation around a couple weeks ago. I explained to her that it wasn’t about her, it was just something that I got exposed to when I was younger, and that’s how an addiction works. I also told her it’s just something that you tend to default to when your brain is so conditioned to it. That helped her understand

I’ve been in a very similar situation with my girlfriend becoming aware of the problem. I told her I’d stop and that was that. Obviously it’s not that simple. I also felt what you’re experiencing with the guilt, it makes it a lot harder to overcome this shit. I told myself that telling her would ruin us, but that I also knew to myself that I was trying my absolute best to overcome it for myself and for her, so there was no reason to feel guilty. And after letting go of that guilt, I started seeing more progression

I think either you tell her now or don’t tell her at all. Lying is just as bad as the “porn”, quite possibly worse. Trust me, lying or withholding the truth does not make things better and it’s so stressful not only for you, but for the other person. For your wellbeing, I would tell her. I would ask for her support, try to help her understand. If she doesn’t, she isn’t the one. It’ll only make your situation worse and it will be easier to fall back into porn.

One thing about her is that she lives with only her sister and her mom, she doesn’t really understand the struggles a man can have too well you know ? She doesn’t understand the whole concept of porn and post nut clarity and all that.

That’s the thing, she doesn’t really understand how for us men it’s something that is much harder to deal with than for women and I don’t think she understands the whole addiction part. I tried telling her but she’s stubborn and won’t listen. So that’s why if I did ever tell her again about my relapses , we are done forever. In my mind, I was thinking about telling her some time down the road form now , after I’ve been sober for a while, because if I tell her now we are toast.

She has to realize it’s an addiction. If you guys consider it cheating, then you might not be able to change her mind. It’s better to tell the truth than to lie and keep it on your conscious forever. If she is truly understanding of your struggle, and knows you don’t do it because of her, she should stay. If she doesn’t, that’s okay. You don’t want to keep hurting each other, and you have to surround yourself with people who can support you rather than punish you for your problem.

Forgot to mention we had gotten back together **