So would you guys say masterbate in general is bad? The hard thing for me I think is just mot masterbating. But I feel like the thing which moves my head to a weird headspace is all these girls on my phone, what do you guys think? And would you just masterbate to your imagination?
Yes it is still bad, because it messes with your dopamine receptors. You will find it difficult to find joy in anything other than that, it’s an addiction. Every 2 weeks - 2 months+ isn’t that bad, but it will still mess with your sex drive, you may only be able to achieve ejaculation when thinking about girls on your phone or using your imagination rather than being present & actually having that experience.
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For me, it has to be no porn, no play, no penis, no way. My wife and I decided I could masturbate as I needed to relieve the pressure while we work out getting back to intimacy*. Tried that after a couple three weeks and found myself always playing, flicking, rubbing, repositioning or anything to get hard. I’d subconsciously start stroking (if alone) when I didn’t NEED to. I just enjoyed the feeling too much. So, hands off the merchandise for me. Don’t squeeze the Charmin. (Old TV commercial) No soup for you! (Me!) * intimacy note- we will get back to intimacy as we heal from family trauma and my mental health (hopefully) gets better - it’s tough for a woman to get intimate with someone battling with suicidal thoughts all the time…but I have a great MH team. If you have suicidal thoughts, do not go it alone! In the USA, call 988. Tell a trusted loved one or friend, but reach out for help! Trust me- they want to hear from you now while you’re alive and not from a note later. You are worthy!