Taking back control of
So I’ve been doing pretty well, I’ve been consistently getting no gaps streaks ranging from 2-4 days. Although I am relapsing atleast I have the control to make it a few days before I do. I’m not looking for advice on how to stop relapsing ( although I know that’s the main point of no fap). The problem I’m having is that when I do relapse it tends to get out of control, for example I will relapse after a few day streak and instead of just doing it once i will relapse multiple times in the span of a few hours or over the span of the weekend. (That’s usually when I relapse). I’m just wondering if anyone has advice on how to move on after a relapse. Because I really hate having a good week of no fap then over the weekend relapsing multiple times. Once again I know I should be focusing on not relapsing All together, but for right now this feels like it should come first.🙏 (I’m not religious so don’t give me any advice pertaining to the Bible or any kind of religion, no hate on religion but it just won’t apply to my life)
I can relate very much with this. I could go an entire week without it then once I relapse, I spiral!. The spiral usually comes from 1) the guilt, regret and disappointment of relapsing. So I am so angry with myself that I do it again. 2) then when I do it again, I tell myself that I have done it already so no point trying to not do it again. But that’s a lie. Both instances of option 1 and 2 are a lie . What I have found from my experience is whenever I relapse like that and I slip once, I tell myself that it’s just the one time. Then I try my hardest not to do it again. I give it everything I can not to do it the second time. Whenever I am able to resist the urge of not doing it the second time even within the same day, I find that I can actually resist it, and I have control and through that I get a bit stronger. Little by little. And I usually feel like I am back on track. But whenever I over indulge, it can span 4 times in a day, two or three days in a row before I begin to try get myself together again. Not the way to go lol. When I fall like that, I try to find and do things that makes me feel clean in my head. Spend time with good friends, go to the gym, do something inhave never done before but always thought of doing, could be making a juice, cooking a meal, try a new workout, or clean a place in my flat I have never cleaned before. Just something that makes me feel renewed. As I am telling you this, I am also telling myself! hahaha we got this!