I’ve been about 10 days clean with no desire to go back. However, in that time I’ve had sex multiple times with women who I do not see myself with. They feel like empty, emotionless endeavors. Although I consider this growth, it doesn’t align with the highest form of self I want to achieve. I’m a bit nervous that if I cut off these situations, I won’t have a healthy outlet and will relapse. Thoughts? Suggestions?
I think this is one of those situations where you have to decide what you want for yourself. Is physical intimacy a priority? And under what conditions? There are lots of “should” thoughts that get attached to sex. I’ve found it easier when I just focus on what I want my sex life to look like instead of entertaining a bunch of thoughts of what it “should” look like. If it’s just replacing pr0n with casual sex, check in with yourself and if that’s really what you want.
Stay strong king. We are trying to let the Lord cleanse our minds of the addiction to pixels on a screen. Not cleanse our minds from natural sexual pursuit and desire. We should try to abstain from sex as much as possible as it could potentially lead us back into backsliding. However, it is much better to be having natural sexual pursuit, than unnatural through a screen. Try hard to limit those sexual encounters and pointless energy exchanges. Wait until you have feelings for someone
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