A Potential Turning Point

This happened to me in therapy that focused on overcoming PMO. Aside from great tools and tricks I could use to mitigate urges, a real turning point for me was when I was sitting in session, and my therapist is a very animated old man (this Jordan Peterson with A LOT more energy), and at one point he looked me dead in the eyes and said something like this: “You have wired your brain to bond with your devices where you get your porn. Your brain thinks that your phone is your girlfriend, but how sexually lame is a phone as a girlfriend?! You can’t kiss it, you can’t make it feel pleasure, you can’t marry it or have kids with it. You look at a fantasy that will always only be a piece of cold technology in your hand. Is that how you want to spend your energy on intimacy?” He was very animated, especially with the kissing part and touching to illustrate how stupid it really looks. That day, I broke up with my cold technological girlfriend. I want to embrace sexuality in its fullest extent—with a real girl, my wife.