What’s the point?
Day 0
by Anonymous
49 upvotes
Relapsed again. I had done about a month and then I’ve been stuck in this rut since where I can only go a few days. Life has been super stressful the last few months and trying to quit masturbation while dealing with everything else just feels like further punishment. I wake up after relapse feeling shitty and motivated only to grind out a stressful work day, and then come home to a stressed out wife who’s been dealing with our small children all day, and then I justify it to myself because I know I’m not going to get sex and I just want to feel good. I’m fucking sick of it but cannot will myself to stop.
Going cold turkey can be hard, my suggestion is to look over the problems in your life and work towards resolving them one by one. Trouble with your wife? Sit her down, and very calmly and respectfully let her know the lack of intimacy is affecting you. That you love her and you understand she’s stressed with the kids but you feel neglected and want to work on that part of your relationship. (Aka don’t just say u need sex) and as for work, if it’s the people or bosses that are the main stress factor, perhaps look at other opportunities out there. Don’t quit but when you have even a second, look through LinkedIn, indeed, and other job posting sites and company career pages just to get a sense of what is out there