I have done a bad thing. I couldnât take it anymore. I paid for sex. The urges were killing me. I was doing everything I could do to avoid porn and this is what I came up with. I feel terrible. Is this a relapse??
I think itâs more in your actions than in what you actually did. Youâre finding loop holes instead of facing it head on. Download tinder and work for it or go to a bar that will help your root issue.
Idk but what I have to say about this is that youâre using other women/men as objects to masturbate yourself with, youâre not looking at their inherent value as human beings, remember they also have dreams, families, and emotions. And that is what porn tries to eliminate as well. Not to mention that you can get STIs, so better get checked. And it might be illegal wherever youâre from. And the girl you were with might be trafficked/or a minor, you never know(same with porn), So just a few points to not do it again. Deep down youâre looking for something real and I know you will find it someday. Iâve been there and also struggle with those urges so I know where youâre coming from!
If youâre a believer in Christ, I want to remind you that thereâs no such thing as âsafe sexâ outside of marriage. God created sex to be a beautiful display of love and connection between husband and wife. Porn and prostitution only cheapen the divine purpose God truly intended. Sex isnât supposed to be transactional. I know it can be difficult, but embracing Godâs design and plan for your life through Christ is the only way to true lasting freedom and joy. Be encouraged brother, Heâll help you overcome. Praying for you man
Iâd say I have a different opinion than most on this so maybe take my opinion with a pinch of salt. Iâd say no relapse, but its up to you. A relapse for me is purely watching porn. Iâve dabbled in paying for sex and whilst the post nut clarity can be painful and its rarely a good experience- I think its better than watching porn. As it is a real interaction than watching pixels on a screen. Itâs a tough place to be because you donât want to replace one addition with another (porn to paying for sex). But if its occasional and used to help beat a porn addiction, I donât think it is necessarily that bad. On a personal level, my aim this year is to stop both, but I accept that paying for sex might be used to help beat the porn addiction. Hope this helps
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i like Bradâs advice. download tinder and work for it if you want it - no cheating lmao. same as porn.