No Fap vs No Porn

I saw a guy post about this the other day and wanted to share my experience. One of my goals with this journey is to create healthy sexual habits and therefore be able to build stronger romantic relationships through intimacy. I tried doing no fap but it didn’t stick very long because I had urges and I have into porn, bc for me those two things were connected. I never masturbated without porn. So fighting the enemy of porn rather than sexual release is a mindset switch. I am 33 days in right now. 31 days in I masturbated for the first time since getting the app but did it without porn and only using my healthy thoughts of sexual experiences I’ve had in the past. It was new for me, masturbating without porn, but it didn’t make me feel the shame and guilt I always did before. So every once in a while, could be once every 2 weeks, could be once a month. I’m going to give myself a healthy release without the use of internet stimulus or poor sexual thoughts. Additionally I’ve been going out with women a lot more the last month, and am actually going to refrain from releasing with them oddly enough. I’ve been turning it down from a girl I’m seeing the last 2 weeks. I still notice I’m coming from a place of lust for the acts and their bodies so until I get a better grasp of those thoughts, I want to make sure my intentions are better and more respectful. Everybody has different experiences and thoughts to share so thought I’d put this up in case it gives someone clarity or something.