Advice

Something that has helped me lately is acknowledging the urge. Fighting doesn’t help because it only grows. Running away from it doesn’t help because the urge follows. Whenever I get cravings, I sit and acknowledge it. Sit completely still, breathe, and recognize the urge for what it is. Sex is natural and good. Porn is bad because it is a perversion of it. We are biologically wired to have sex and that is what we crave. Porn is so addictive because it triggers the same nerve pathways that sex does, releases tons of dopamine unnaturally, and it distracts you from something deeper. I sit and think about all these things, and the pray for help, and the urge goes away after a couple minutes. Now if you truly want to be free, you gotta figure out why you are addicted. Not just how it stared, but why you keep going back to it. Addictions are coping mechanisms and distractions. As I’ve been doing recovery programs, therapy, and research, I now understand that I have deep rooted insecurities. I’ve had since these insecurities since I was in elementary school. These insecurities led to depression and anxiety. Later porn was forced on me and it never went away. I became addicted because it made me forget about those insecurities in the moment, but they only got worse. And because they got worse, the cycle repeats. Now that I understand that, I can break the negative feedback loop and let go of the cravings, and the entire addiction. I only discovered this stuff recently, but it’s making all the difference. You gotta figure out why you’re addicted. You have to be willing to learn and grow and change. Most importantly, you aren’t strong enough to do it on your own. None of us are and that’s why we’re here. We need each other and we need Jesus Christ. Jesus loves you. Walk with Jesus at all times and in all places and he will heal you. If you ask, God will help you figure all this stuff out. We can’t do it without God. All things are possible unto them that believeth. We’re all going to make it

I aware that it’s much harder than it sounds, but just constantly be doing something to occupy time. Get an urge, clean your room, watch a film you enjoyed in your childhood, play Battlefront II or a game you enjoy, call up a friend, ect. Remember that you are in control. Stay strong and God bless you.

I would actually recommend quitting porn and then trying to quit masturbation afterward. Masturbating can help take the edge off of the desire to watch porn. Men have been given a refractory period, try to use that to your advantage. After “finishing” you’ll notice your desire to watch porn decrease. It’s not a permanent fix, but it helps in the moment.

I’ve been finding success in just limiting my time on my devices in general. Most of my triggers are online and through social media, so trying to remove myself from those things have helped. Even little things like: charging my phone in the kitchen, and never bringing my phone in the bedroom or bathroom have helped keep me on the right path.