Preparing for Independence
Day 28
by Luis Medalla
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I am worried about this Easter break. I have been off of porn for 28 days now. The longest I have ever been off of porn in my entire life. I am incredibly proud of this moment and but I do not feel free from porn. I realized I have been spending these last 4 weeks with my girlfriend, staying at her house, having someone to support me physically during my recovery. This Easter break will be the first time I will be alone at home and it worries me. I have relapsed before because she would leave but I don’t want this to be the case anymore. I want independence and I want to be able to trust myself to be alone. How can I prepare myself to deal with my recovery on my own?
Come up with habits to distance yourself from sources of porn. For example, every night I lock my devices in my cabinets and give my dad the key. I use my phone for my alarm, so sometimes I have it charging across the room just to keep it away from me. Buy a punching bag. I still need to buy one… but the point being, if you feel the urge/temptation, you should immediately refuse (and if you’re alone, yelling ‘no’ helps) and start punching the bag to work up your adrenaline. It helps your mentality shift into gear to reinforce the mental direction you’ve chosen. Off the top of my head that’s all I got for now. Hope it helps!