Is paying a prostitute a relapse?

I usually will say that real sex is better than porn, but paying a sex worker is not a healthy way to deal with your urges. Porn is a type of sex addiction you need to rewire your brain into seeing women as people to form relationships with not just people to have sex with. Paying a prostitute only reinforces this idea. In my opinion this is the only time real sex would count as a relapse. Find a regular girl and form a relationship, even if it’s casual.

Thanks for sharing your wisdom

Yeah, then even still, the cost benefit doesn’t stack then. And when a real person is in front of you, your brain will want it to mean something-or-other, at least subconsciously, and upon repetition with the same or different one, it can really start to screw you up. So TL;DR, avoid Escorts like the plague, it’s just a relapse but worse.

It’s not even about love or intimacy for me I‘m not lonely or seeking a relationship

More expensive, and more fake. You know she’s acting, and not always all that well. You know she doesn’t love you, or want you more than your money. You don’t know who or what is hanging over her in that situation, and odds are if you do find yourself knowing, it means you were in a far more dangerous situation than you bargained for. It’s mind-destroying. Soul-destroying if you believe in that, but mind-destroying at the very least if you don’t.

Yeah I think a hooker wouldn‘t solve the problem long term and it’s just shifting the form of release to a more expensive version

The Shame Spiral: Worse. The involvement in causing misery: more direct. The addiction: More personally destructive, financially. True Intimacy: Nowhere to be found in it. If I could turn back time, I would do anything to have not spent those years the way I did.

I fell down that chasm. DO NOT START. RUN! It is even worse than a relapse, it is a progression in stage

Hiring a prostitute is like doing coke when you’re having pill withdrawals. If by some miracle you do find an attractive hooker who doesn’t give you diseases, that may become a more costly addiction. Likely though, you would just feel worse than you would if you just whacked it. Definitely know what you mean about needing that release though. Maybe masturbate without porn. Idk if you’re trying for a straight no fap, but imo it’s better than hiring a hooker. If you’re seeking intimacy, you won’t find it with a hooker

Yeah can’t afford to pay for it long term

Yes, instead of paying a prostitute just go Tinder or hinge. In my experience, there’s always somebody out there wanting to smash lmao. Just be respectful imo

I‘m looking good but I can’t pull on tinder bruh that sh*t is exhausting

Cam got a point, I thought of that too

Hey bro i believe in God but i dont feel that i need to preach to you because it sounds like you dont want it and i respect that but honestly if you want a prostitute get one or tinder hookups always works but later on down the road itll hurt us

Obviously we all do since we are all trying to quit porn, but this just doesn’t seem right. The whole point of going 90 days is to rewire your brain to think differently when it comes to sexual urges. Porn has destroyed how you’re normally supposed to feel which is why it is so hard right now. I recommend you go the full 90 days with no porn or anything sexual unless you actually have a connection with a person.

I don’t see it as an issue. Pornography is the real problem! Just be safe, wear condoms and make sure to check for any STDs before hand. Sex is healthy, don’t let these religious fanatics tell you otherwise.

What you mean it’s worse bc I‘m getti g intimate? Isn‘t one of the points of no fap to get real life pleasure instead of self pleasure

Don‘t come at me with god or religion please

Sounds like you have a problem

In my opinion it’s worst than porn because you’re still being physically intimate

Oh man, this is the time to deny yourself and give it go God brother. Hard times like this when you deny yourself builds you up brother.