When does this stop?
Day 0
by Joe
21 upvotes
I broke again. Years & years & years of failing to break this chain & yet I can never change. This shit is cooking me. I’m too old for this. Want to find love but I know I can’t even attempt or search knowing this addiction is still my battle consistently. I have 0 confidence at 28 & it’s not going to get better cause my mindset only stays strong for a few days. I’m weak as weak can be. I feel like I try & turn to Christ but i feel like I can’t even get close cause I keep falling to this addiction. I feel like I failed life. The embarrassment I feel inside is burning. I have to change. I’m just a continuous failure of this process.
Bro focus on not watching porn instead of not fapping the sexual urge you get is natural but watching porn is not natural that’s where the true resentment and disgust for yourself comes from. Heres an idea for you. When we think of any other addiction rehab program they don’t implement complete cold stops. Meaning they don’t expect you to just wake up one day and not be addicted to your addiction and they don’t try to completely force you to do that either. What they practice is instead soft stops as I like to call it. Meaning they stop you from doing the thing that is most damaging to you. But they will give you a less harming but closely related effecting substitutes to sort of break the mental dependency that you have upon the bigger issue. I think this helps with porn because even though we are addicted to porn, in most cases it is an coupled addiction that goes hand in hand with getting an erection and fapping there’s obviously other factors but that is the main thing. So essentially if you couldn’t get a boner and fap you probably wouldn’t just watch porn for the heck of it. So to make the rehab easy for you don’t just cold stop yourself. Take away the most damaging thing to you which is porn. Porn is the cause and the root to the depression and addiction. But it can be conquered by abstaining from it until you see you don’t need it. So I suggest completely staying away from porn, promise yourself not too look or watch AT ALL but you give yourself the okay to fap sometimes when the urge becomes too strong for you to turn it away. Give yourself that break but ONLY USE IMAGINATION. and a secret is even if you can’t get hard how you would with porn while using your imagination just keep going until you just get tired of it because even if you don’t fap pleasurably you will probably get tired of just rubbing yourself with no actual climax. And just repeat this process but STAY AWAY FROM LOOKING AT PORN that will be the rabbit home of destruction. And I know we can control ourself from looking at something it’s the urge we get down low that’s irresistible!