I seriously need help

Think about how it would feel if she truly knew how bad it was. Think about what she would think of you. I lost a girlfriend because of these issues. At the start of our relationship, I told her I wasn’t the kind of guy who was into porn, OnlyFans models, or any of that sexual content on social media. That was a lie. I had deactivated my social media accounts, but I was still watching porn almost every day and masturbating regularly. I told myself it wasn’t hurting anyone—that it was my private business. Eventually, she found some browsing history, and the truth came out. I was angry that she went through my stuff, but I couldn’t keep lying. I decided to be honest and tell her everything, and it really hurt her. I felt awful. But that moment also forced me to realize something deeper—I wasn’t happy, and I was using porn to cope with issues I hadn’t faced. It was a painful lesson, but one I needed. When I meet the right person—the one—I’ll never let porn come between us.

Same boat, was clean from it for months and the urges to look at it again came out of nowhere. A lot of what I’ve seen before stayed in my head and never went away. It’s hard to forget something as intense as some of those scenes that the videos offer. I’m not exactly sure what helps because it still plagues me, but talking with your girlfriend about it is helpful.

Just know that we are all here for the same reason. We are a community and here for each other in the time of need. Reach out like you have and we will support you.

Yes stop now. My girlfriend and I broke up last week because I lost feelings for her due to my addiction and she left. Please don’t end up like me brother. Stop now please

You’ve got this brother. The Devil wants you convinced that you’ll never get over this, but that’s a lie. You can beat this. I was in the exact position you’re in. I had been hooked on porn since 8 yrs old (currently 25). Watched it pretty much everyday and could not quit. Tried for months and kept falling back into it. Even begged God on multiple occasions to take it away but nothing was working. Eventually, I opened up to my girlfriend as it was really affecting our relationship. I had become extremely distant due to the constant dopamine rushes, shame, guilt etc - and I had to come clean to her and ask for help. I was terrified to tell her, but she was understanding after seeing how much it was affecting me. She told me I was suffering an addiction, and just like any other addiction it had its grip on me. She helped me through every step to break free from porn. Fast forward today, I’m on my second 40+ day streak on Day 47. I’ve gone from near-daily addiction for over 16 years, to only relapsing twice in 90 Days. I now realise that God wanted to remove my pain only after I had worked up the courage to confess to my girlfriend and rebuild our relationship. My advice would be to do the same. Whether you believe in God or not, confess to your girlfriend and ask for her help. The secrecy adds to the guilt and shame and once you break that, the loop can be broken. It’ll be terrifying opening up, but it’s worth it. It changed my life completely. Praying for you brother. God sees your struggle and He wants to help. Ask Him anytime and He’ll answer. I hope this advice helps 🙏🏼

I’m in the same boat and married. Porn is an issue. I hate it. And overtime i do grow cold. I’m also looking for help. Something i learned was Jesus taught us love through sacrifice. Ultimate love is painful and this journey for us is painful and it should prove ourselves we are capable of true love if we can overcome this temptation.