Relapsed after 2 weeks clean

You’re in a spiritual war. Don’t let this define you. You are defined by who you are in Christ! Kill this sin. Escape you and multiple opportunities to flee. It’s time you choose life over death. Jesus over sin. Jesus stated in the cross it is finished. He won. We know the story. Get right and repent ask for forgiveness and confess. Pray for a repented heart one that won’t become hard

It would be extremely tough, but be honest with your wife and tell her your struggles, then she can keep you accountable. If you can be this open and honest with strangers then you can be open and honest with your wife. That will break down so many barriers and it will help so much in the long run.

I feel this bro. I’m in the same boat. I hate letting her down and letting God down. But you got this. Two weeks should be celebrated, that is a great accomplishment. It’s a step in the right direction. Celebrate that part of it. Learn from the loss. Seems like reels and such only bring temptation. Might need to eliminate them for a season. Praying for you

You are in full on warfare brother and war is hell. You haven’t surrendered you recognize the battle and want victory. That is a good sign. God will walk you through this. My recommendation that’s helped me is to first clear out the filth in the mind as a first step, purify the mind by saying the Jesus prayer a centuries old prayer that holds much power. “Lord Jesus Son of God have mercy on me a sinner.” Repeat this in your head as many times as you think of it and the lust demon horde will flee in terror. Praying for you brother. Strength and honor!!

Hey man, first off, thank you for being so real and raw about your struggle. That kind of honesty takes a lot of courage, and it shows you’re still in the fight, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Relapse doesn’t erase your progress. You went 14 days clean, that matters. That’s 14 days of building new habits, resisting urges, and walking in the right direction. One fall doesn’t define you. What defines you is what you do next. I hear the pain in your words and the deep love you have for your wife. That guilt shows you care. But brother, shame isn’t your identity. You’re not a “shitty husband” or a “shitty Christian.” You’re a man in a battle. And like any battle, it gets messy. But you’re not alone, and you’re not beyond hope. You’re not stuck, you’re growing. And growth takes time, especially with addiction. God is not done with you. He’s not surprised by your relapse, and He hasn’t changed how He sees you. You’re still His. Keep showing up. Keep leaning on support. Keep fighting. The fact that you’re grieved by this shows your heart is still soft, still wanting to be better, still open to change. That’s a powerful thing. Praying for you, man. You’re not alone in this.

Robert - for me it has been supremely helpful to understand why I do it and what the deeper drivers are - not just dopamine but the anxiety, depression and problematic relationships that make dopamine feel like the solution. Taking action to address all that is hard and something i will be working on for a long time but so much of the podcast resonates with my experience

I can relate completely. I feel the same exact way. I just want to be a better man overall. But you got this bro. Don’t give up. And start again. Even if you did relapse you went 2 weeks clean. That’s impressive if you ask me

I’ll check this out. Thank you, Rory

Sounds very familiar. I strongly recommend this. It has been by far the most helpful thing for me: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/all-courses/pivotal-recovery-course/