Do pics/audio count as relapse from someone you’re dating?

Well i believe if the intention from both of you is to count it as that then no because you are both dating however if the intention from the other was not then i believe you should refrain from using those messages as something to replace relapse. However it is most definitely better to do that especially with someone your dating than to relapse

Robbie’s nailed that ^^

It’s addiction/compulsion that is the core issue for most of us. If you have a sexual relationship with someone, whether real or through pix/audio, as I see it that’s natural, normal , and healthy. Any religious reasons for abstinence aside (and fair enough if you have those), so long as it’s not feeding your addiction then no issue. So, if it replaces porn in a healthy way, allowing you to explore sexuality in a respectful and consenting way with this girl, and it doesn’t itself become compulsive, then it could be part of a healthy relationship dynamic. Integrity is doing what feels right to you and your values, in consensual and healthy ways.

I would say it's cheating

I think still depends, if you feel shutting down advances from her kills your entire relationship one could argue that’s unhealthy in of itself. Sex is a natural part of a healthy relationship it’s all just balance and what you feel is fair and right I think if you’ve saved stuff she sent then I’d count it as a relapse, and if you’re feeling guilty that’s maybe part of the problem and indication you feel it’s a relapse. But if your overall feelings and sentiment towards her are positive it’s hard to say that dynamic is a bad one to have in your life Sorry it’s not a clear cut answer but I think it’s entirely on what you feel is best for you, if you think seeing that as relapse is most healthy for you, call it that. If you find acceptance that sex is part of a healthy relationship and you don’t feel your feelings or desires are u healthy or harmful, don’t call it relapse

Okay then let me be specific then: as of right now I’ve unfortunately let myself go & jerked off/finished to these past pics and audio. So even though it’s not technically off a porn site, have I still relapsed since they’re explicit? Or since it’s directly from a girl I’m dating it doesn’t count as relapse? And if this does count, I totally understand & will hold myself accountable/do the right thing and reset my timer, but moving forward should I just delete the few things she’s sent me & just try harder to not accept anything that she sends me?

I think depends on the nature of the dynamic between the two of you. Being fair to yourself is important and understanding life happens. If you didn’t act on the situation I’d personally say you’re all good man! I’d only say it’s a relapse or issue if you find you turn to her specifically for pics. Others may disagree but hope that helps