Not Porn/Streak Related
Man, it’s been six months since we broke up. I’ve even dated someone in the meantime. My mind still grieves her. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about her. When I see her, my heart skips and I’m thrusted back into those loving feelings all over again. I thought I was over this, I thought I had moved on. I guess I just forced those feelings down and now it consumes me. Giving it up to God, but the feelings persist. Maybe He wants me to feel this way, but why? Is it because there is a future with her I am not aware of? Is it because there is a lesson to come of this? My mind races trying to figure it out and the heartache continues. I trust God will reveal the true path of this all when the time is right. I pray to have the courage to let Him do his work without my own will getting in the way.
I hear you bro. Im 4 months in since i left her. I was sh*t the first month. I was 5 years with her. I tried getting help everywhere to let go of her sooner. I wouldn’t say I’m completely over her but I feel better and don’t think about her as much, and i’d let you in how i manage that. First I blocked her everywhere on social media, only left the phone. I went on a No-contact period, previous heartbreak i used to do 30 days then i’d end up back with her. This time i kept it going until 90 days. Everyday of those 90days i journaled, just wrote my raw thoughts and feelings down. That no-contact sh*t works bro. It means you’re not stalking her seeing what she up to, and also since you blocked her she not seeing what you up, which means you don’t post hoping she sees you and gets jealous. It releases you. I kept it going beyond 90days. Secondly, i know its clique but gym works, its one of the highest forms of loving yourself and taking care of yourself, its mental release too. Once you hit the metals and seeing you chest and biceps grown, your confidence will start to restore bit by bit. You wont feel like sh*t anymore. Thirdly, when the thoughts of her come you don’t hold on to them, i was taught to say an affirmation when they happened, i know, i rolled my eyes to that too at first but i kinda work. Whenever i think about, which i still do after 4 months, i say to myself “i don’t live there anymore, I’m building a better future away from her, i am ok without her and i will meet someone better”, you can craft your own that redirects you, don’t dwell on that thought, its just a thought, not a fact and you don’t have to act on it, No reaching out to her or stalking her when you think about her. Fourth, kick her off the pedestal. She is not a perfect queen. She is so imperfect in so many ways and there’s way more better people you haven’t met yet. If you don’t believe me, write down all the bad or weird stuff you ddnt like about her, dont write the positives. So stop idolizing her as a perfect human being. The hard truth is you can’t stop yourself or prevent thinking about her, what you have control over is your actions when those happen, the best action is to do nothing, that cant be that hard. It gets better with Practice, one other truth is, it gets less painful and gets easier everyday, first days and weeks its very minute and not noticeable, but once you fully practice the above, you start to get exponential jumps. The reason why 6 months you still here is probably cos you never let go and delayed the healing, attack the healing full force immediately. Get rid of her photos, clothes and all her stuff, dont ask her to pick them, you can keep them outta sight until you have completely healed or burn if there’s need. Get rid of all reminders, declutter and rearrange your life without her in the pic,