Did your spouse know about your addition before quitting? Did you tell them when you decided to quit? How did you tell them? I am married and am trying to decide if I should involve my wife in my decision to quit. We have an excellent relationship so I am sure she would be supportive. I am just not sure if I want to come clean to her. I am embarrassed about being addicted.
Thanks guys. Blake, my relationship is very similar to yours. Very healthy. I am doing this because I want to be better for her. Only 4 days in, but staying strong.
And God bless and good luck
This is an excellent question. I am not married but I have experience with people in SA who are. You’ll hear both sides, but the general consensus is that you should not involve your wife. If you fail, it can reflect on her and become “what did I do wrong. Am I not enough”. Let her know, yes, as there should not he secrets, but no, you should not rely on your wife for the actual support portion. Find a sponsor or accountability partner, I cannot stress how important this part is
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I personally have not. My wife loves me very much, and I love her. This is a me battle to bring me closer to her and our relationship. So far it has done those things. All of my reasons to quit are for my wife. She is my rock, but for this situation I am doing this by myself for her. Maybe you have a different relationship with your wife than I do. But I know how much the things I have battled would affect her. My 2 cents
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Today, day 4, I was battling bad brain fog and extreme tiredness. She was asking if I was ok, so I was debating on telling her or just keeping it to myself. I don’t want to lie to her, but I want to try to do this without her feeling like she is a part of it and needs to treat me differently to support me.