Day 1 achieved. Please help me find the CLARITY and STRENGTH to keep going

Amari I’m not Christian, but thank you. I appreciate the support

Join a community of men in church. Read your Bible and give yourself grace and time. YOU GOT THIS‼️

Will do Shakoor. Thank you

Write bro. Open either a doc or a notepad. And write.

Thank you Logan. That means a lot. I know I can still bounce back from this, and I can be stronger than ever. I’ll keep sharing my progress on this app and keep everyone who is interested updated. I agree that reading and turning off distracting high stimulus digital screens is a must, I have a book I’m reading currently that I need to get back to

Thank you Richie. I do recognize why I go to it, but I lose sight of that often or make excuses for myself despite knowing that it’s a zero sum game because I just feel like such a loser or “incel” - porn is like a punishment. But you’re right, i recognize the underlying problem (lack of purpose, confidence, self-love and self-respect) and the solution is to align myself with clarity with my higher power. So I will try to connect to this higher power daily going forward

Remember that change happens a minute at a time, not just day by day. The big timer counts seconds for a reason, every step on the path to recovery is a win no matter how small. Also keep in mind that there is no point of no return, no matter how bad your addiction is or how often you’ve relapsed in the past you can still find the strength and commitment to recover. There is no such thing as a lost cause. Just take it a moment at a time. You got this. Also, what i find helps get away from the need to constantly be distracted and have something going is reading. Its nice to turn everything off and quietly focus on the text. Pet semetary by stephen king would be my recommendation.

Ask God to come into your life, God wants a relationship with you Ask God to come into your life, and reveal himself to you, and you will be guided in the right direction. None of us can wrap our heads around the immense love God has for us. Put aside your shame and Doubt and just give your troubles and doubts to him. Trust him. Seek him. Seek and you shall find

Every response is great, anything might help.. vin though you have to first recognize why you go to porn. Once you recognize that, then you’ll be able to realize that you have to do something else. For example, me whenever I get stressed or felt heavy, I will go to porn to relieve myself. No since I recognized it, I knew what the problem was.. so I started doing else things like reading the Bible listening to worship music sitting outside going for a walk whatever it is that you like to do.

And @Dan Woll, I totally feel bad and guilty the whole time but that’s why I do it, because the super stimulus of porn and the pleasure it induces numbs me from facing the negative feelings that are obviously bubbling inside me at all times

Yeah now that the weather is nicer, I’m definitely trying to do that more. Thanks Ray

Vin, Something that helped me was every time I had the feeling of relapsing I would go for a walk instead of grabbing the phone to relapse.

Thanks Brandon. I know it’s only Day 1 for me, but just seeing all the upvotes and positive support of the community is empowering me and keeping me on the right path. I want to use this app and community everyday to push forward

Also go on walks and find things to keep you busy like cleaning or working out

Do you feel guilty when you do it like your doing something bad or wrong?

That works it’s up to you but believe in something bigger and better than you

You got this man, when you have the urge just open this app or start distracting yourself with a house chore. You are strong! God bless you bro

Thanks James. I don’t believe in a conventional God (I tried but my brain literally can’t wrap its head around a an all powerful dude existing that could physically affect the world or me in any way whatsoever). but I can definitely get closer to my higher power and my purpose here on this earth with the limited time I have

Get closer to god