Why this is so hard

I stumbled upon some forums on Reddit trying to find men who have a safe place talk so I can also branch out connections and I found some women on Reddit just hating men for being lonely and i saw a couple of posts saying like finally bumble and tinder are giving me men I will date or get to know and saying that men are complaining about being lonely and to just embrace it and I wanna say something and say it’s more difficult than that and don’t get me wrong there are some men who take advantage and will gaslight people but majority of men are just alone and scared and in this day of age feminists have told us we are sexist and we are useless and that women are far superior than us, I get it because of the whole patriarchy but at the same time we didn’t really want this we just want to be heard or understood and have relationships where we don’t have to hide our emotions and it’s super sad to see that men are just so put down and I feel put down all the time like I couldn’t tell you in high school that I didn’t wanna be caught looking at a girl or when I’m on the stairs below a girl I kept my head down intentionally so it didn’t seem like I was a creep but we get told that we are gamblers and alcoholics and porn addictions and we are a plague and sometimes it feels like it idk maybe it’s my own head in the way!