Conflicted

if you feel bad about it, that means not masturbating was one of your goals. So ofc its a relapse

It all depends on what you are trying to go for. If you’re quiting porn, I’d say not a relapse, if you wanna quit masturbating also, then yes, relapse. Don’t be too hard on yourself. In my case, I wanna quit porn, masturbation really wasn’t a problem for me, so if I masturbate without porn, I’m not considering it a relapse.

I feel bad because I lusted while in the act of it, but at the same time we fall to occasional lust unfortunately even when not masturbating, whether that’s in public or watching the tv. It’s just a lot of grey area.

I’ll be honest, for me it’s not a relapse because when I masturbate(without porn obviously) it’s because I want and I don’t feel bad. But as you said, you feel bad and therefore it should be counted as a relapse. Masturbating once in a while is healthy.

Of course its a relapse