My Relapse Helped Me

I recently just broke a month long steak by watching 2 minutes of porn. Seeing the timer reset after slipping for such a short amount of time was extremely discouraging. However, instead of being extremely hard on myself like I have been in the past, I decided that this time I was going to try and forgive myself for what I did. It was hard, but guilt and shame actually makes you more likely to relapse, so I knew I needed to avoid it. For those of you who have relapsed like I did, try and find ways to make it a positive learning experience. Try to find a way to make this time different from the last. Try to use this discouraging time to improve yourself in some way. Optimism and self-forgiveness kill porn addictions, guilt and shame fuel it. As someone who has struggled with this for 9 years and used to watch it for 3-4 hours a day, take it from me.